Life just cracks me up! It doesn't matter how many books you read or how much advice you get...sometimes you just aren't ready to embark on what lies ahead! But God gives you grace!!
I have a tween.. and well the whole "boy thing" is hitting!!! It just socked me right in the face..last year when the boys came around the neighborhood and the girls giggled and talked about what boy likes what girl.. I was cool and knew it was very innocent... but this year I am freaking out!!!!! My tween is cute and fun-loving and can hold her own when it comes to sports and such and the guys kinda like that....but what has me stirred up is the boys are asking the girls to go to different things away from the neighborhood.... not a date or anything like that.. but still away from Momma-hawk-eyes!!!
We've talked long before, when boys had cooties, that we would not allow our girls to have a "boyfriend per say" and how they couldn't date until they were 30.. ha! I've been reading, praying etc.. to determine the best thing for our girls... and it is hard. We want to do what is right for our daughters in every aspect..foremost, spiritually then emotionally and socially. We've talked about the whole "group hanging-out thing" and when they can date..So far this is what I discovered how it is today..not saying it is wrong or right... just research..
Most Middle School students [7th & 8th] group hang-out, mall, movies, starbucks, youth functions or at someones house..some have a parent tag along "the invisible mom", there there but with a birds-eye view of it all. High School [9th-10th] sorta of do the same thing.. but they have games, dances, parties and parents are usually only the "hosting parent". [11th & 12th] usually parents allow "dating" at this point... but a friend recently shared with me that a group of guys committed to only group dating until college... I really liked that idea. And as a mom of girls that really relieved my heart.. the question I have is if they hang-out, is it ok for the girls [four or more] to go to the guys house or is it better for the hang-out time be at the girls house? And what if you know the boy but not the parents.. but you know the reputation of the family and it's all good and the guy just so happens to be the boy that likes your girl.. do you go and introduce yourself to the parents or what.? It seems sorta awkward. it's not like they are "dating" or as they say in middle school "going out" they are just interested in each other... What is the best thing to do?
Here's another issue...swim suits... we decided that at age 1o our daughter would longer wear a two-piece in a public setting [only in our neighbors pool with the girls only.].. we decided to make that change before her body began to develop so it would be just how it is, kinda of things...she's been cool with it for the most part...and she totally gets why she needs to dress modestly but not all her friends parents have the same conviction..therefore it creates a bit of an issue from time to time...because she says.. but ALL my friends are wearing them...don't take me there!! I know at her age it is totally a social issue and not another...but you want so much for them to understand and REALLY get it! It is for love ...not just to make life miserable....
just another day in the life of 007 mom!!!
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